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I have heard of On-Premise
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There is a big difference.
On-Premise parties usually occur in a private location, and it can usually
be assumed sexual activity will take place at that same location. Off-Premise
parties often times takes place in a public place, usually a hotel ballroom,
or other similar locations. Sexual activity will not occur there, and is
often times frowned upon. |
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Isn't hosting parties for the purpose
of meeting sex partners nothing more then flesh peddling? |
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The Devilz Paradise
does not host these parties for the purpose of sex. The primary purpose
for events The Devilz Paradise holds is so like-minded people can
get together without fear of social scrutiny. Society frowns on those things
which it does not understand. Few entertainment establishment patrons will
look politely upon two men in a loving embrace, or two women for that matter.
The Devilz Paradise was formed so all in an alterative Lifestyles
can be free to express themselves without being put under the "eye"
of social fear. We welcome all walks of life, when it is of a consensual
nature. From gay couples, lesbian lovers, polyamorus partners, and any mix
there in. Anyone would be foolish to assume that no sexual activities happen
as a result of a The Devilz Paradise event. However, how many people
attend a bar, dance club, or other establishment for the purpose of finding
a partner, even if it is simply for a "booty call"? |
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I am a single male, and
I find it unfair that I may not be welcomed because of this fact alone,
why is this? |
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This is probably the hardest question the The Devilz Paradise Staff has to field. Our whole premise is welcoming everyone
regardless of their age, gender, sexual preference, height/ weight, religion,
etc. To most active swingers, swinging is not only physical, but philosophical.
swinging is sharing. Sharing is two-sided and single guys tend to be takers
and not givers. We know that's a generalization, but from past experience
here are some problems we have seen first-hand. Single guys seem to be self-centered,
"What's in it for me?". They tend to be rushed, "Hi. let's
have sex." There have been a real problem with single men becoming
too attached and clingy, for example the single male falling in love with
the lady. Single guys are viewed as being a greater risk. Now all that is
not to say that a single can't be successful finding couples. Considering
the financial investment we put into The Devilz Paradise events,
we must also consider what appeals to the majority. However, we do not want
to bar anyone from attending. We encourage everyone to attend, Single Men
included. It is just we will limit the number of single males that can be
present. Secondly a single male that can come to parties, and show they
are not the generalized norm, will be welcomed as any other member. The
best way to avoid this issue all together is to find a date! <hint, hint> |
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What do you mean by Alternative Lifestyles? |
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Alternative Lifestyles encompasses a wide range
of lifestyles, and sexual preferences. This can encompass swinging couples,
gay and lesbian partners, and polyamourous partners. It also includes all
types of mixes from there. An alternative lifestyle usually refers to those
lifestyles that exist outside the social norm of a monogamous male/ female
couple. |
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Are our names ever given out? |
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Absolutely NOT! The Devilz Paradise does
not, nor shall not, share information about their member's list, membership
roster, or who is a member with anyone. We respect the privacy of our members,
and also expect our members to do the same. |
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We have heard of a Swinging Etiquette
what is it? |
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There is a swinging etiquette. It is away to ensure
everyone has a pressure free, fun time. Some of the the rules of swinging
etiquette include: |
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- NO-MEANS-NO:
One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is the right of anyone to say
"No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is
not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, however,
can lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts
the premise that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone
at anytime and it should be done with a simple "No, thank you".
Never give an explanation, because that is what usually causes the problems
and the pain. Never mislead, if you aren't interested don't make someone
waste there time trying, let them move on so you can too! Learn how
to accept, and provide, "no thank you" graciously.
- BE COURTEOUS: Be aware that
this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties and fears. Courteously
is how we all want to be treated - with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding
and sensitivity.
- BE FRIENDLY: Whether or not
you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You
never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that
person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE
compatible and do wish to share time. Try and take time to meet new
people remember you were new once, and how intimidating it can be. A
friendly smile can ease the anxiety quickly.
- CLEANLINESS: Nothing turns
a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or unfresh
breath. Shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always
a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination.
- ONLY DO WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU:
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody
that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself
in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle
to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with
whom you want.
- DON'T BE PUSHY: If
you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting
way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are
not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. Everyone has
the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation.
Do not ever forget that.
- PRACTICE SAFER SEX: It is
up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present
concern over sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea,
AIDS, yeast infection, etc., the use of condoms should not offend anybody.
Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly.
You are not being accused of being unclean, but simply someone wishes
to provide you both with protection.
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I have heard about different "levels"
of swinging, what are they? |
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The differing types of swinging, are listed
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SOFT
SWINGING: Foreplay with other partners, sometimes
including oral sex but no vaginal penetration. Can add spice to a couple's
relationship & allow them to have fun without the risk of disease
or jealousy. Many couples start out as soft swingers as they first explore
swinging. But don't think that soft swingers will always convert to full
swapping.
CLOSED
SWINGING: Partners swap, but have sex in separate
rooms. Closed swinging allows for a more intimate experience. Some people
feel it allows them more freedom to explore & fewer interruptions
of their enjoyment.
OPEN SWINGING:
Partners swap & have sex in the same room, or bed. This includes orgies
& is great for exhibitionists & voyeurs, who can show off or just
enjoy watching their partner play. Some people find open swinging allows
for total release of the sexual desires & fantasies. It is not for
the jealous or the shy!
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I am a single man, is there any suggestions
for me? |
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Single males need to remember swinging is a lifestyle,
not just sex. Single men must also realize that most people in this kind
of lifestyle are couples, male and female. Meaning that the lady is rarely
looking for emotional attachment, but rather recreational encounters. Many
also appreciate friendship, and that too is also important. They are often
times selective with who they meet, and are with. A good majority of couples
seek other couples. However, many couples include a female who is bisexual.
Though there are also bisexual males they are pretty rare. Couples with
a bisexual female rarely seek out another male, usually they seek a couple
with a bi-female or a single female. As you know most swinging clubs often
times do not allow single men. The Devilz Paradise allows single
males to join in the fun, but limits how many may attend. This is because
some couples do seek out single men, and enjoy their company. However, The Devilz Paradise only welcome select single men. Select means they must be
clean, polite, well dressed, and well mannered. As with any on-premise,
or off-premise club, good character goes a long way. As a single male, you
must keep that in mind. Sadly, single men have been labeled as being sex-crazed
punks, and just as sad, many are. Many spend time on-line with a woman and
never acknowledging her significant other, or never seeing beyond her as
a "piece of ass." That is the reason why most swingers clubs bar
single men from their events. If you want to have fun at a swinging event,
leave your punk attitude at the door. Socialize, mingle, dance, and whatever.
Remember to be respectful, if some tells you NO, respect that and move on.
Don't push! Remember your attendance is not guaranteed. You may be present
that time, but may not be welcomed back the next time. Also, keep in mind
many of the ladies you will meet already have their man, their husband.
If the husband don't like you, you don't have a prayer with his wife. Remember
you're not here to find a lover or soul-mate, and neither is anyone else!
Be respectful of the husband, don't try to make his wife a conquest. There
may also be women present who have no interest in men, other then their
own partner, or men in general. Respect this, don't try to "convert"
them, you won't succeed! This not only makes you look like a punk, but will
more then likely have you removed from the festivities. Don't assume because
someone talks to you, even flirts with you, or dances with you that they
will have sex with you. They have every right to say NO. Respect that, enjoy
what you are doing now, and leave the rest for later. Always come dressed
neatly, and cleanly. Leave the ball caps at home, and the torn jeans in
the hamper. A clean set of clothes says more then your words ever will.
Leave the pick-up lines at the single's bar! Remember a majority of women
at events are married, they have probably heard them all. Don't be a wallflower,
even at Swinging Events women rarely approach men. Though this is changing,
it is still the norm. Get out, and mingle, even if you don't meet someone
for more erotic encounters maybe you will meet a good friend or two, and
perhaps they know someone who would be interested in more intimate meetings
with you! Drink in moderation, no one likes a slobbering idiot who can't
hold his liquor. You can have fun at Swinging events. You must keep a positive
attitude, treat others with respect, and just have fun! Remember, just because
you are welcomed to a swinging event doesn't guarantee an intimate encounter.
No one owes you anything, and you shouldn't expect anything from anyone.
Just relax and have fun, and you will be welcomed back. Act like the "typical"
single man, and don't expect to hear from anyone again! |
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*We have never been to a Lifestyle event
before, what can we expect? |
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Good question. We receive this one a lot. In return
the question we always ask, is what do you expect out of an event? If you
expect to have fun, you will. If you expect to make new friends, you might.
If you expect more, then you could be disappointed. Then again, maybe not.
There are no guarantees. At The Devilz Paradise we tend to try and keep our
bigger events, like Meet & Greet parties, lively and fun for all. We
do have mixer games throughout the night, a DJ playing some fun dance tunes,
and always the opportunity to perhaps meet new people. We look forward to
meeting people at our events who have never been to Lifestyle event before.
So far, our track record has been very good with "newbies." Most
of our first timers come back. Now our smaller events are a lot of fun as
well. They are smaller, more comfortable, place to sit back and have a good
time. Either way all are events are geared towards one thing. Having fun,
in a comfortable environment. |
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I notice alot of your members are part
of a couple. What about someone like me who isn't part of couple? |
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Even though a majority of our members are couples,
we don't restrict our membership to strictly couples. We have many singles
in our group. We also have singles who have met someone on our group, and
became a couple. Also, many couples are looking for singles for adult play.
For someone who is single, we welcome you to come join us. We have many
singles who enjoy our group. Give it a try, you never know what fun might
find! |
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